Good Foods and Love

This article shows how good foods improve relationships. We have been discussing the correlation between a good cook and good relationship. The argument is whether a wife/fiancé who is a good cook is likely to be loved better than a kitchen newbie.

Now, a kitchen newbie is not a bad cook but someone that is about to become a great cook. I don’t believe in absolution, if you don’t know it today, you can be good at it tomorrow; it all depends on your drive and level of desire for delicious home made good foods.

Good food and love

If you are subscribed to my free weekly newsletter you probably read my email about how good foods improve love and relationship. This is just a child-birth of that email, the discussion continued here. The email was my own personal opinion with regards to my encounter and relationship with other women but what we have here is a collective idea.

More like a discussion, as a matter of fact you can also add your own comment via the comment form below.

So do you think there are benefits to being a good cook… as a wife/fiance? Well… my answer would be a somewhat “yes”, and I will tell you my reasons.

I am quite aware of the controversial nature of this topic but no matter how far we would like to drag the subject, it would never erase the fact that women run the kitchen in the African setting.

This may change as western civilization absorbs the African culture but at the moment it is a fact that can never be neglected. Other factor that may also influence this culture would be the economic empowerment of women, but in the season and time we live in, women run the kitchen.

One can never truly comprehend the reason behind the angst and chaos that builds up in a home that is run by a kitchen newbie, sometimes it get to a point that the relationship between a couple becomes very fragile.

Just to prove a point, I got this email from a member of the kitchen sometimes ago

Hello Chy, thanks for your wonderful recipes and emails. Can you believe I was almost driven out of my husbands house because of foods? My husband makes me do all the cooking and wouldn’t eat out. At first I thought I couldn’t do it and it resulted into quarrels and troubles for me and my husband. The truth is that your website actually made me believe that I can cook, I made a decent soup yesterday and hope to improve with time, all thanks to you for saving my marriage o. God bless the kitchen (Mrs Catherine Ehulu)

I also got lots of emails after I sent the newsletter on “how good foods improves love/relationship” like this one below

You are so right Chy. Am not yet married, but believe me, I have seen how this food issues can destroy beautiful relationships. I dnt wanna take chances and I love new things. So, am ready to journey wit u into d great world of FOOD. Haha.

Like I did state initially, this is more like a discussion and there would be collective ideas. I do believe that every woman want to run a peaceful home and I have also learned from experience that being a motivated good cook makes the whole process a lot easier.

For the African woman; either you are a good cook or you are wealthy enough to employ a cook. I said in the email that a man is willing to pay for food stuff but most men would never pay a cook, either the woman cooks the food or she pays the cook 😀

However, there are exceptions; I have even seen families where men also love to cook; but that doesn’t happen often in our part of the world. In our part of the world there are just three options for the women.

  • Allow the angst and chaos to get to the boiling point.
  • Employ a cook.
  • Learn to cook.

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My desire is that we would be motivated enough to take control of our individual kitchen, why? Because I have learned from experience that wives/fiances that are also good cooks end up getting more love and respect.
Here is what Ijeoma has to say.

“I thank you so much for bringing honor to my marriage. I’m two month old in marriage. I already know a little how to cook some foods but not all. You have added more knowledge to the little I know on how to make different types of foods. .My husband after eating asks me how I learned to make his native food. The taste of my meals is now the order of the day by my sister/brother in laws staying with me. They keep saying and I quote you are a great cook, did you go to any catering school?” I keep smiling each time they make that comment. Thanks and keep your flag flying. Blessing Ijeoma, Nigeria”

This goes a long way to reiterate the fact that a good cook wife/fiance is more likely to be loved and respected then a fresher. All of what you have read so far is not just my opinions but also that of diverse women from diverse backgrounds

Please use the comment box below, I would love to read your story, tell us how good foods improved your love life and relationship.



  1. Lolo  January 27, 2014

    I love cooking myself and my children can’t do without my food.
    I pity their wives becos she must know how to cook or else! hmmm!
    Cooking is a hobby to me, I cook all my food at home especially native Igbo food and I also learn from other tribes in Nigeria apart from hausa food. I like Omo Tuo with correct palmnut soup. God increase you in knowledge and wisdom in Jesus’ name. amen.

  2. Benita  January 27, 2014

    Hello Chy, thanks for all your wonderful recipes. Please I need food to make my man to fall in love the more with me, I am not really great with cooking but I guess I am improving everyday, all thanks to your kitchen. Please what particular food can I prepare to make my man fall in love all over again? Thanks

  3. CHIDI ANEGBU  January 27, 2014

    Hello Lolo, thanks for your comment. Benita, thanks too. Actually, the aim of this article is to stress the corrolation between good foods and good relationships, we hope to inspire women to learn how to make more delicious Nigerian foods; not just one dear. Why not learn to make your man’s best meal, you can start from there 😀

  4. Ella Jacobs  January 27, 2014

    You are so right Chy, just cooking and no cooking can result to an unimaginable level of chaos in a home. I am saying this because I am a living witness, for me the adjustment process was really hard but it got to a point that I either had to learn to cook, take control of the kitchen or just fight. I love my family very much so I had to really bulge for them.

    And yes, a good cook is more likely to be loved and respected and pampered

  5. Onyinye Ezugwu  January 28, 2014

    I must really say I have learned soo much from the kitchen. I admire your courage and how you have allowed yourself to be used of God to be a solution to families. Truly good food makes the love a man has for his wife keeps growing. It keeps him expectant, happy and eager to run back home. Weldon ma. I know my hubby gives me tips as pa extra money whenever I make him a treat from the kitchen. Not to bribe me but to say for that … I really appreciate. Kudos to THE KITCHEN and you MA!

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  7. Chidinma  January 28, 2014

    Good cooks sure make better homes. Just imagining a man after a hard day’s work comes home only to meet ‘poti’, mehn…that 9t is spoilt. A man who has a good cook as a wife will always be eager to be home and can proudly invite friends to experience his wife’s magic fingers.

  8. Adenike  January 28, 2014

    Hi ma, I just simply want to say thank you for your amazing recipes. I’m a young lady in my mid 20s’ but yet to be married. I love to cook and my cooking has really improved through your kitchen. I’m the toast of all my sisters and my fiance loves my food too and I just feel so proud of myself. I just can’t wait to get married and start treating my family with nice recipes (thanks to you). God bless you real good.

  9. ronke  January 30, 2014

    Hello, I ve subscribed to your weekly newsletter n it has rily helped me in my cooking.Every man looks forward to coming home to a good meal despite all he might have eaten outside. So good cooking n happy relationships go hand in hand.Thank you ma’am n pls continue the good work. You have been of tremendous help to loads of women hence families.

    • CHIDI ANEGBU  January 30, 2014

      Ronke, thanks for your comment. I am delighted that you are finding help from the Kitchen 😀

  10. amy  January 30, 2014

    Thanks Chy, I’m so enjoying your recipes. Improving day by day on my culinary skills. Also, good/delicious foods not only magnet attention, love n’ respect, it also drags envy w it *hahahahahaha* cos’ other babes feel so insecure when you’re with them, knowing you’re something else in the kitchen. Some of my friends distance themselves from me, you know women nah, small thing gets them jealous, who cares? I have my hubby loving me like there’s no tomorrow, cos of the delicacies I prepare, n’ believe me that’s all that matters. Ana m achikwanu…lmao!

  11. elizabeth  January 30, 2014

    You have change so many lives wit wat u are doing, God bless you. What of the women frm the north? U need to add food frm dat part of the country. Thank you. E

    • Chy Anegbu  February 6, 2014

      Emy, you are so right!!! @ Lizzy, we are improving by the day, happy weekend.

  12. ib longjohn  January 30, 2014

    Goodmorng chy,tank u so much for ur inspiring website and cooking, I’ve learnt so much frm ur cooking. I’m so grateful , I pray for more grace and strenght for u.

    • Chy Anegbu  February 6, 2014

      IB, thanks for your prayers.

  13. lisa  January 30, 2014

    Yeah!good cooking build and strenghtens a family and a relationship.a man after a hardwork outside,wen he remembers. His wife cooking makes him happy!and. Also with the help of prayers.

  14. Obaloluwa  January 31, 2014

    Chy-chy-Chy, in fact you are not the first but one of the best in Nija. Seriously speaking you are a wonderful product among women. Kudos to your dearly husband and kids,creative not a nagging woman.Although,I love cooking right away in my childhood, Even though if my fiance didn’t known how to cook I promise to put her through in all necessary steps,since you are my role model….Kingloluwa

    • Chy Anegbu  February 6, 2014

      Obaloluwa, thanks. I am blushing

  15. mummy prince  March 6, 2014

    Hi chy thanks for ur good work.have been an average cook but since I met ur blog am now a better cook that hubby hardly or don’t eat out again,even my prince eats like an adult .all thanks to you chy keep the good work bubbling .

  16. Favour  April 26, 2014

    Hi Chi am sincerely grateful to ur blog which you have taken much time to handle. I actually passed a test on how to make nkwobi by my husband and dat has created a new love in us thanks am grateful

  17. doomieblessing  May 17, 2014

    Gud day chy ,iwant to buy ur rice recipes n eguide bt idnt no hw or rada dnt understand how to fil d page for atm so shud I pay in d bank? And if I do hw wi I get d sir 4 downloadin dem n agn iwant 2 get d ultimate nigerial cook book pls help me out ireally really want 2 improve my cookin

  18. George  June 25, 2014

    Hi Chy! I know that in Nigeria (atleast the part I come from), it is the mentality that women are mainly to be the cook. I’m 40 and looking forward to meeting my nubian queen, in my quest to learn the secrets of successful marriage, I’ve also learnt that it won’t hurt if a husband helps out most times, just to show team work and care for his wife. Thanx for spicing up my culinary skills. I know she will be in awe by my magic touch in the kitchen.

  19. Chinny  September 30, 2014

    Thank you Chy.

  20. Grace Olaniyi  November 20, 2014

    dear chy. I live in kaduna.where can l get the cooking book?

    • Chy Anegbu  November 24, 2014

      Pls call David on 08035051468 for assistance, you can make payment via a bank deposit or card and we would deliver the book to your address, thanks.