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Good Foods and Love

This article shows how good foods improve relationships. We have been discussing the correlation between a good cook and good relationship. The argument is whether a wife/fiancé who is a good cook is likely to be loved better than a kitchen newbie.

Now, a kitchen newbie is not a bad cook but someone that is about to become a great cook. I don’t believe in absolution, if you don’t know it today, you can be good at it tomorrow; it all depends on your drive and level of desire for delicious home made good foods.

Good food and love

If you are subscribed to my free weekly newsletter you probably read my email about how good foods improve love and relationship. This is just a child-birth of that email, the discussion continued here. The email was my own personal opinion with regards to my encounter and relationship with other women but what we have here is a collective idea.

More like a discussion, as a matter of fact you can also add your own comment via the comment form below.

So do you think there are benefits to being a good cook… as a wife/fiance? Well… my answer would be a somewhat “yes”, and I will tell you my reasons.

I am quite aware of the controversial nature of this topic but no matter how far we would like to drag the subject, it would never erase the fact that women run the kitchen in the African setting.

This may change as western civilization absorbs the African culture but at the moment it is a fact that can never be neglected. Other factor that may also influence this culture would be the economic empowerment of women, but in the season and time we live in, women run the kitchen.

One can never truly comprehend the reason behind the angst and chaos that builds up in a home that is run by a kitchen newbie, sometimes it get to a point that the relationship between a couple becomes very fragile.

Just to prove a point, I got this email from a member of the kitchen sometimes ago

Hello Chy, thanks for your wonderful recipes and emails. Can you believe I was almost driven out of my husbands house because of foods? My husband makes me do all the cooking and wouldn’t eat out. At first I thought I couldn’t do it and it resulted into quarrels and troubles for me and my husband. The truth is that your website actually made me believe that I can cook, I made a decent soup yesterday and hope to improve with time, all thanks to you for saving my marriage o. God bless the kitchen (Mrs Catherine Ehulu)

I also got lots of emails after I sent the newsletter on “how good foods improves love/relationship” like this one below

You are so right Chy. Am not yet married, but believe me, I have seen how this food issues can destroy beautiful relationships. I dnt wanna take chances and I love new things. So, am ready to journey wit u into d great world of FOOD. Haha.

Like I did state initially, this is more like a discussion and there would be collective ideas. I do believe that every woman want to run a peaceful home and I have also learned from experience that being a motivated good cook makes the whole process a lot easier.

For the African woman; either you are a good cook or you are wealthy enough to employ a cook. I said in the email that a man is willing to pay for food stuff but most men would never pay a cook, either the woman cooks the food or she pays the cook 😀

However, there are exceptions; I have even seen families where men also love to cook; but that doesn’t happen often in our part of the world. In our part of the world there are just three options for the women.

  • Allow the angst and chaos to get to the boiling point.
  • Employ a cook.
  • Learn to cook.

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My desire is that we would be motivated enough to take control of our individual kitchen, why? Because I have learned from experience that wives/fiances that are also good cooks end up getting more love and respect.
Here is what Ijeoma has to say.

“I thank you so much for bringing honor to my marriage. I’m two month old in marriage. I already know a little how to cook some foods but not all. You have added more knowledge to the little I know on how to make different types of foods. .My husband after eating asks me how I learned to make his native food. The taste of my meals is now the order of the day by my sister/brother in laws staying with me. They keep saying and I quote you are a great cook, did you go to any catering school?” I keep smiling each time they make that comment. Thanks and keep your flag flying. Blessing Ijeoma, Nigeria”

This goes a long way to reiterate the fact that a good cook wife/fiance is more likely to be loved and respected then a fresher. All of what you have read so far is not just my opinions but also that of diverse women from diverse backgrounds

Please use the comment box below, I would love to read your story, tell us how good foods improved your love life and relationship.

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Comments

  1. tolu kayode  January 2, 2016

    Hi, I admire your hard work so well and honestly you are doing a good job. I love cooking myself and inventing lots of different new recipes. So i can imagine that you are really doing a difficult job very well. But this is just my opinion, i know men like good cooking and it may makes them love their wives, but a man loving you for your good food is a subjective thing. It’s not a licence to love, for all men in all cases. Thank you.

  2. Vivian  February 27, 2016

    Hi chy, i really thank God that i stumbled on this site. In the early days of my marriage cooking was always a cause of chaos at home till i threw myself into it with help from your blog. God bless u

  3. kris  February 27, 2016

    Every morning I wake up to the Nigerian Kitchen telling me about exciting native foods. It is extremely hard and expensive to find the ingredients here in the US. Would you ever take one of your recipes and give us substitutes for something like crayfish. The different leaves are especially hard to come by also. I did find goat meat..

  4. emeh precious  February 28, 2016

    Chy am soooooo happy to be a member I love cooking soooo much ad I hv leanrt more n more different types of food my man is enjoying them oooo

  5. Nkese irabor  April 8, 2016

    Hi Chi. Keep up the good work. I am an excellent cook but I think our cooks are not innovative enough. I intend to share some tips on this platform in future as my contribution to your efforts. Every Woman needs to be able to cook. Thanks

  6. sade  August 10, 2016

    Hi, I always av problem with My husband because of food I can only prepare common food but he want something different. Please how can u help me

    • Chy Anegbu  August 15, 2016

      Just pick your choice of food and make, you can help by occassionally asking what he would love to eat.

  7. Joanne  October 4, 2016

    THANK YOU CHY…. I HAVE YOUR BOOK I MADE OKORO AND EVERYONE LOVED IT. BUT MY OFE NSALA WAS QUITE BITTER…. YOU DIDNT WARN ME..LOL… I ADDED PLENTY UZIZA LEAVE

    • Chy Anegbu  October 5, 2016

      Lol, sorry about that. U used lots of utazi and not uzizi. Now I am warning you.

  8. Terra Edet  December 3, 2016

    Goodday Ma, i just want to appreciate your timeless effort on making sure that every nigerian women becomes good cooks which is a necessity;am not married though,but am not having problem with cooking our Nigeria tribals food,except most intercontinental foods,which that`s the main reason i pick interest in your site,it will really be appreciated if you can be introducing that too! Terra Edet.

  9. Therese  December 12, 2016

    Well, it has been of good worth being a follower of your blog and an owner of your books. Now,hubby looks forward to my different type of rice and my kids can’t wait to see what I bring to the table on sundays.

    • Chy Anegbu  December 15, 2016

      Wow, thanks for your feedback.

  10. Wokoma  September 23, 2017

    I love your recipes please I am in Abuja how do I get the cook book.

  11. Inonge  January 8, 2018

    thank you so much for your in put.I love to cook.the kitchen is my best friend.I am getting married to an Igbo man that’s why I subscribed to you so I can learn how to cook Igbo from foods.am a Zambian lady ready to take on Nigerian foods so I can make my future husband happy always.the way to the man is his stomach.

  12. Osadolor Wellington  January 8, 2018

    yes you’re very right as the man of the house you may know how to cook good food but you may not be in kitchen all the time, now for the fact that am a chef and know what may be missing in any meal, i still love my wife and want her to cook my food especially weekdays. my submission is that good cook makes relationship stronger.